Hi everybody! If you have been a follower of mine for a long time you know that I am a people pleaser and 100% hate telling people I can’t do something. I have done a few blog posts where I have shared things about this exact topic but in the last year and into this year I have really been working on saying No, this month especially. I wanted to take a minute to share with y’all a few things I learned simply by acknowledging my own feelings and saying no.
I totally realize that not everyone is the same way and has special circumstances or things going on that might not make this possible to happen in the same way as me. However, when I was reflecting on the last month and thinking about what I could share from my experience that would be helpful, I think there are takeaways for everyone. So I hope this helps anyone who’s feeling pressure not only from their job but from within themselves to always be going, going, going.
Pressing pause is OK
I am and have always been the type of person that is go, go, go. One of the things I struggle with the most when it comes to my job is the pressure to CREATE CREATE CREATE. And right when I think I’ve created something awesome, I scroll through Instagram and see someone else doing it “better”. This mindset is detrimental to my health physically and mentally, so I’ve been working hard over the past few years to recognize when I’m approaching a breaking point.
When I know I’m getting to that point, I try to take a step back and hit PAUSE. It allows me space and time to deal with my anxieties and the pressure to always be creating. Honestly, it’s one of the best things I’ve learned to do for myself. I have been the person that works over the weekend because there are not enough hours in the day, but I have been doing really well this year that I have been hitting the pause and saying ok, it is okay to wait until Monday. We all need a pause every now and then in order to be our best selves. So if you’ve been thinking about pressing pause, this is your sign to DO IT!
Saying no can open the door for other amazing opportunities
When you put yourself in the yes mindset, your time can quickly get clogged up with things you’re not even sure you truly care about. And that can prevent you from being able to say yes to things you actually want to do – both personally and professionally. In the last few weeks, because I decided to start saying no. This might seem like something small, but it feels AMAZING to have the opportunity pop up and without thinking, be able to go and do things.
With that said, I challenge you over the next month or so to look at your commitments. Which ones are really serving you? What things can you eliminate to free up more time for YOU? This doesn’t make you selfish. On the contrary, it means you want to be able to give your best to your work and to the people in your life, and you can’t pour from an empty cup.
Hobbies are important
Have you ever been in a job interview or maybe talking with someone new about your interests and they ask what your hobbies are and you have nothing to say? This used to happen to me all the time. It’s what helped me realize something had to change because I literally couldn’t think of anything that didn’t relate to my work. Now I have hobbies like cooking and running is back in my life because it has been a focus of mine! It’s so, so worth taking a step back from work or other commitments to give this time back to myself.
I hope this resonated with some of you and showed you that taking a break and saying no is 100% Ok! Don’t feel guilty for needing to do what’s best for you! As always, thank y’all for stopping by and reading. I will see y’all back here next time.