Setting the record straight. I am 24. Single as a Pringle. Not engaged. And I am perfectly fine with that. I feel like everyone around me is getting engaged and there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that, it’s just not what is happening in my life right now. No sob song here, I am perfectly okay with that! But I know I am not the only one out there and I have many friends who are the same way. There are so many things that I think people take for granted about being single and not engaged and I thought, what the hell, why not share the list. If you have some others, I want to hear them so comment down below.
40 Things To Do In Your 20’s Besides Getting Engaged
1. Build a life that is based on your interests, your goals, and your loves (and not what someone else thinks you should be interested, strive for, or love).
2. Adopt a puppy and grow old together.
3. Fall in love with your career.
4. Design a home that is a reflection of you, be that a studio apartment or two bedroom house.
5. Keep a bucket list (but for your 20s) of places you want to visit and the things you want to do – and actually work on doing those just for fun.
6. Become the fittest and healthiest version of yourself.
7. Learn what your standards are and stick to them.
8. Travel alone so you can decide whether or not you hate or love traveling without the pressure of another person.
9. Throw monthly dinner parties for all of the friends who became family.
10. Find hobbies you actually enjoy, and not just because it would look cool on Instagram.
11. Put together a skincare routine, even if it’s just three to four products.
12. Learn how to cook…like really cook.
13. Keep a journal.
14. Figure out a cleaning routine so you’re not the messy one when you live with someone again.
15. Spend time with your parents. Ask them questions about themselves, their lives, their beliefs, their past. Learn from them. Just because you’re growing up doesn’t mean they still can’t teach you something. Your relationship with your parents is always going to evolve the older you get, embrace it.
16. Learn your love language so you can be a better partner.
17. Go to fucking therapy.
18. Buy yourself flowers.
19. Try new hobbies so you have an answer besides, “Watch TV” to “What do you do for fun?”
20. Build a library of the books that shaped you, shook you, and changed you.
21. Travel as much as possible. It’s a lot simpler to do before you have a kid (or pets) and a mortgage.
22. Go on a lot of dates for no other reason than to meet someone new. No expectations, just to build the practice.
23. Volunteer and make a difference in your community.
24. Actually establish healthy routines and habits that have nothing to do with looking good in your wedding photos.
25. Go to movies alone. Eat alone. Do the things that used to make you feel insecure about your singleness by yourself.
26. Keep a list of things you’ve already done like places traveled, accomplishments, random adventures, and then you can look at it if you feel “behind.”
27. Find a self-care practice or a set of practices that work for you and make a commitment to do them weekly. Make self-care a priority in your twenties so you know how to take care of yourself with or without a relationship. Learn how to put self-soothing and anxiety releasing practices like meditation or yoga in your toolbox. Your mental and emotional well-being depend on it.
28. Find a kickass group of friends.
29. Understand that your life is never going to look the way you think it should, but learn to work with what you’ve got anyway.
31. Know what it means to live within your means and then do so.
32. Be the best bridesmaid or groomsman you can possibly be. Appreciate love even when you’re not in it.
33. Find healthy and constructive outlets for stress.
34. Let people know how you much you love and appreciate them.
35. Figure out your values and commit to honoring them as much as possible.
36. Learn to listen more than you speak, but understand when it’s necessary to speak up.
37. Forgive yourself for all the times you didn’t get it right.
38. Dance a Saturday night away with your best friends and end the night with a drunken heart to heart eating Chik-fil-A on your bedroom floor.
39. Learn a new language.
40. Sit with yourself. Get to know yourself inside and out. Become so familiar with who you are that no one can shake you because your self-awareness and identity are that strong.
If you are in your 20s and not engaged, are there some things you would add to this list? As always, thank y’all for stopping by and reading. I will see y’all back here next time.